I am a big believer in telling things like they are. I don't a rosy picture, or hear half the story. If you don't like me, I just want to know, and why. If you don't want to do something, just say so. But my mother has a saying:
Before you speak, ask three questions. 1) Is it true? 2) Is it kind? 3) Is it necessary?
Sometimes that doesn't quite apply. Sometimes it may not be kind, but it is definitely necessary. But I had a couple encounters today that made me wonder, do I take my honesty too seriously.
I've probably mentioned this before, but I don't have a lot of patience with people who are unreliable. I spent a lot of my childhood waiting for friends to show up, or return a phone call. I recently did a favor for a friend. I picked up an item for her, since she doesn't live in town. Getting it to her was a bit of a problem. It couldn't be mailed, so she suggested I give it to someone else, since they were going to be visiting her soon. This person is notorious for being flaky. And surprise surprise, they never returned my calls to meet.
I finally just sent a message to the friend and told her she wouldn't be getting her item. I told her I was sorry, but if I couldn't get it to her, there wasn't much I could do. It wasn't quite what she wanted (which she'd mentioned at least twice,) so I didn't feel much remorse. It irks me to no end.
Later today, I had another person today contact me on instant messenger. This is not a person I particularly like, but have no general issues with. We'd spoken at the bar on Friday, and today, they told me they wanted to know why I didn't like them. I tried to talk around it a bit, but they were being so dramatic. I figured, why not? So I told them. I didn't like their personality. I didn't like the way they acted. Not my type of person.
It was like kicking a puppy. This person is routinely over-dramatic. Oh, but she'd tried so hard to be my friend! She hadn't done anything wrong! Etc, etc.
So it got me wondering, am I really just a bitch, hiding under the guise of honesty? Am I too brutal?
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